Then I read a recent Just Out article over the weekend about how domestic partners in Oregon must file state taxes together. This wouldn't have bothered me really except for two things:
- I had already completed my taxes & now have to complete an amended form
- My spouse & I have to file our federal taxes as single and our state forms as married or RDP's (Registered Domestic Partners). This means we have fill out two federal forms, one "legit" one as single and one "as if" form that we use for our state taxation.
Confused yet? Even the CEO of our company location and her partner didn't know about this, so I guess I'm not the only one.Needless to say as someone who is not a fan of filling out forms, this sucks. It also proves without a doubt that legalized same sex partnerships are not equal in the state of Oregon (or anywhere else for that matter including Massachusetts, Vermont, New Jersey, etc) because those of us who need basic protections for our family have to not only do extra paperwork, but to add insult to injury, call ourselves single on one form and "married" on another when we know we are the latter. It's rude & mean and I seriously doubt married heterosexuals would ever put up with this bullshit. So why the hell are we?
It's the "I'll take what I can get" mindset for me on this issue I guess. At least my love and I can have some protections in state (let's not forget the minute we go out of state we no longer can legally claim one another) and for that I would fill out a thousand forms. That doesn't mean however that we should have to simply because we love each other. This inequality makes me want to do a hunger strike on the capitol steps or something else really out there. We shouldn't have to be treated this way, like there is something wrong with us so we need to fill out an extra form just to be included in society.
I never asked to be queer. I never asked to feel such love for another woman. I cannot change my heart and I shouldn't have to. And I won't, no matter how many times I have to be made to feel less than by our government. I just won't!
New forms are on the way from good ol' uncle Sam. I'll fill out the extra forms with my spouse and know it means we're protected and I'll be happy about that. I'll also remember that our fight for full equality is not over and that together, my love & I will are stronger than any kind of legalized discrimination.